Wednesday, August 01, 2007

My family and I are extremely grateful to all of you for your support. Thank you so much.

Papa's funeral is tomorrow (today).

They put July 19 as the date of his death - but it could've been July 18 or 20. No one knows for sure. But it was TOO LATE for most of the time of our search.

I'm not myself now. Nor is mama, I assume. Mishah has done most of the arrangements.

The finality of it and all the "if only we had or hadn't done this or that" - this is what hits me the hardest now. All the tiny things that could've averted such a terrible death. He was the kindest person in the world - why did it have to happen to him like this?

Again, thank you all for being here for me.

11 comments:

  1. Neeka, Words fail me at this time. All I can say is I am sorry for you loss. May God Bless you and your family.

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  2. Tomorrow you will say goodbye, but he leaves all of you fond memories that will never be forgotten. Stay strong.

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  3. Primi moi soboleznovaniya. Derzhytes. Vy vse sdelali pravilno i sdelali vse chto mogli. Tvoy papa prozhyl yarkuyu, aktivnuyu, dostoynuyu, zamechatelnuyu zhyzn, pust zemlia yemu budet puhom,,,

    Marina

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  4. neeka - what was the cause of death?

    This occurred only a day or so after he was taken to the hospital?

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  5. You did everything you could possibly do. Some things are just beyond our control.

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  6. Neeka, words can't properly express..Please know that my condolences and prayers are for you and your family. May you be comforted in this difficult time.

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  7. I wish I could say something intelligent... My prayers with you and your family. xx

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  8. Neeka, we are sorry we could not have done more for you in this difficult time. Please be strong and know that you did all you possibly could.

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  9. I am really sorry to hear of your loss! My prayers are with you.

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  10. My deepest condolences to you and your family.
    Please try not to dwell on the what if's. These things happen for some reason. Celebrate the positive. I send my prayers.

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  11. Hopefully you won't find the following comment insensitive, I don't mean it to be, but it has been my experience that denial and anger have only made things worse.

    Assigning blame in these sort of situations just doesn't do any good in the end and only prolongs the pain. Looking at it from my third person perspective, unfortunately it would have taken nothing but a miracle for things to have turned out better. The urge to blame God (if you believe in such) is completely warranted, but I am pretty sure it will not make things any better. This is unfortunately one of those tragic freak occurances that are, sadly too often, a fact of life on this mortal coil.

    There is no answer on to how to cope with such a loss, you just do, anyway you can. However, it may help to keep in mind that your father lived long enough to see his daughter find a good husband and the birth of his grandaughter. In my opinion, that is pretty good. There are a lot of people who never had experienced, or never will experience, those sort of things in life before they pass on.

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